The Last Loop Lesson: It Was Never Meant to Be Solved Alone
A full moon closing to the Loop Series
Major life events have taken place throughout my life during the full moon.
There’s something about this full moon that reminds me of those big moments, like a line is about to be drawn in the sand. I feel for many of us that the line being drawn is between who we’ve been in the loop, and who we’re about to become because of it.
If you’ve been walking through this series with me, you already know: the loop isn't punishment, it's a portal. It’s a mark of the Game Changer. It's the deep work around this year's theme: inner evolution creates outer revolution. Thus, addressing the loops is not for the weak or the unengaged- these are the real-world boss battles that bring us to our knees, transform us, and release in ways we never expected.
And the final lesson? The way forward isn't through force or finally getting it right.
It’s about being seen.
Group Wisdom: What the Loops Taught Us
Over the last few months, I’ve been guiding intimate groups through the terrain of the loop. We didn’t goal-set. We didn’t rush to reframe. We didn’t force solutions.
Instead, we let others in.
We named the ache. We said the thing. We told the story. We let others hear us in our most raw, vulnerable, unsolved places. And we did it in the most powerful way I've yet to experience throughout my career, with the aid of process art, and in the safety of a tried and true process.
One group member called it 'a cheat code' to life.
In this space of being seen, heard, and felt, we gently unraveled the layers, we took the time to name and feel the core emotions of our loops, our stories, our patterns - and something happened that no amount of striving could create:
The shame started to dissolve.
The stories loosened their grip.
And the loop softened—quietly, without fancy intervention, pushing or forcing.
This happened every time and in every group. High performing, intelligent, spiritually awake people who have had loops running for years- people who have invested time and energy into solving these problems before, were having 'ahas!', breakthroughs and texting me to tell me how wildly their loop is already changing, loosening, opening up to new experiences and outcomes.
3 Things the Loop Taught Us
1. Being Seen Changes the Process
Witnessing is not passive—being truly seen, heard, and felt by others reshapes the loop from the inside out.
One person in the group said, “Even when I'm not the one sharing, I feel so engaged, I felt my own process changing by participating in theirs".
We were never meant to go the whole way alone. The group connection process works whether we're witnessing, sharing, or listening. The loops change when we're together in them.
2. Naming Diffuses Shame
In a safe space, language becomes liberation—naming the truth softens the loop's emotional grip.
The loops we carry are bound up in secrecy. Shame feeds on silence. But when someone else says, “I know this space too,” the isolation breaks. The story shifts.
Shame dies when stories are told in safe places. Shame is the glue that binds the loop in its tight pattern; without it, the whole process unfolds differently.
- No Fixing, Just Feeling
When we stop reaching for solutions and start feeling the core emotion, transformation arrives on its own terms.
The art works its magic here. It speaks a language we all know, its the language of the soul, and it has so much to say. Even in the simplest creations, the language of the art was overflowing. We never ceased to be amazed by what showed up, how perfectly the timing and how deeply the messages ran when we used the art to see, hear, and feel the process.
We walked away from every session different than we arrived, and we were in awe every time.
Tonight’s Invitation: Don’t Fix It.
This full moon marks the closing of a loop, not through force—but through clarity, honesty, and letting safe people come closer to see you, to hear you, and feel this part of the journey with you.
So if you’re still experiencing the weight of your loop, I want to offer this:
Don’t solve it.
Don’t force it.
Don’t resist it.
Just feel it.
Let someone see you.
Let the ache be heard, without pressure to make it beautiful.
If and when you are able, use the art prompts. Create from this space. Allow the process art to work its magic for you. Creating the art alone is wildly transformative; sharing it is like entering into another dimension. Both are powerful. Take the leap and try something new; your soul was meant to create and communicate in this way. It's a built-in healing "cheat code".
Finally, let this full moon make new lines in the sand.
Game Changers are moving forward, once again, into a new era. Stay with us, keep going.
I'll see you on the other side.
The Loop Isn’t Over- It's Transformed As We Walk Into A New Era of Being
This marks the end of the Loop Series, but it’s not the end of your becoming. It’s the beginning of something softer, clearer, and far more truthful.
I’m honored to walk this with you.
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P.S. If you’re still in the loop and want are ready to not go it alone, more group spaces are on the way.
We have a mini-group option- just drop your email and I'll send you info and next steps. This is great if you just want to try out the work we do and get a taste of how our unique process + group work can help you through your loop.
We have intensives coming up in late summer and later this fall. These are great for people who are ready to jump in. We have another Executive Intensive and Retreat, as well as a marriage/partner intensive this year for those who are doing the work together. Stay tuned for great events all year.
Reach out anytime with questions.
